4 Reasons Why Nigerians are So Conservative.
We Nigerians preach to ourselves to not be so conservative or narrow minded quite well. It must have been some Nigerian that noticed that "being conservative" was a Nigerian thing and then blew the whistle.
We Nigerians don't like to hear that something can be done another way. To most of us, the way to do it is the traditional way. No other way is acceptable. We believe that's the way it has always being done, and that it should remain that way.
A good example is in the way we throw away food wrappers. Every time I correct a fellow Nigerian on how very wrong it is to throw food wrappers on the floor, they always say something like this, "Look at you! Everybody does it. So what difference will it make if I decide not to throw?" And then they'll keep trying to defend their action no matter the angle I come from. So, I usually just hands up on trying to reorient my fellow Nigerian friends on how lame it is to litter the environment with non decomposable wraps.
So, why are Nigerians so conservative? Why don't they accept that there are different ways to do different things?
•••• We want to preserve our culture.
Apart from the food wrap example, most Nigerian parents especially the mothers prefer to use traditional methods to do things. For example,most Nigerian parents are staunch advocates of whipping their children. They believe their own parents brought them up that way so they should also bring up their children like that as well.
But there are other ways of raising a responsible child that don't involve inflicting pain or injury on the child. There are dozen other methods to raise kids. But which Nigerian parent will want to listen to you tell them that? They'll just tell you, "spare the rod, and spoil the child". Lol. They don't even want to hear your opinion.
They believe culture should be preserved. And I understand. It's necessary to preserve our culture. We should. But whipping our kids? Every Nigerian has probably heard one tragic story or the other of a parent, out of annoyance, beating their child to death. All for what? Because they want to enforce discipline.
The good aspects of the culture should be preserved and the unhealthy aspects be thrown away.
•••• We are so unreceptive to change.
We are not accepting of change. At least the most of us. We don't want to believe it can be done another way. After all, we always believed the former method was the ultimate. Which is why we are still struggling to drop some unprogressive habits embedded in our culture.
•••• We are afraid of perceived consequences.
Female genital mutilation has been in the news lately in Nigeria. Because in some parts of Nigeria, it is still being practised. They cut some parts of the female's genital because it is believed to be essential for some traditional rites. And again, they do it because that's the way it's done.
Usually, they attach some form of consequence if these practices are not followed. So, usually Nigerians don't drop some cultural acts because they're so afraid of the consequences attached.
This is also very similar to the Killing of twins in Nigeria precisely in Calabar, although it was later stopped.
•••• We are very stubborn.
We’re usually like, if it can't be done our way, it can't be done any other way.
Yes, Nigerians are incredibly stubborn. We believe we are always right and our way is the best. Forgetting that no one entirely knows everything in this world.
WORDS OF ADVICE:
Being conservative doesn't pay really. It's best to keep an open mind in life. It allows you to various opportunities, to explore. We Nigerians are just gradually leaving behind conservative acts and attitudes and we are keeping open minds a lot more, mainly due to awareness.
Understanding why we're conservative is one step in the right direction to us being the best versions of ourselves.